Living Phoenix

Tag: hearing God

  • He is real

    He is real

    I take a deep breath in, fill my lungs to tightness against my chest wall, a relieving stretch, and then release downward, pressing, pushing, feeling. Closing my eyes I repeat. Over and over again. I fix my thoughts on God. In this case, I fix my thoughts on Jesus and keep breathing. Yaweh: breathing in, Ya, and out, Weh. Slowly and deeply as I return my chaotic mind to focus on Him, over and over. Then I asked a question: Jesus, can you be in this room here now? Jesus, can you be right here, present, in this room and on this couch in a home once filled with joy that has been shrouded in the darkness of my sins against a holy covenant and stained by the blood of broken hearts? “Yes”. “I’m here.” Like a shock from my temporal lobes that spread throughout my mind, I heard Him speak, I saw the words, I felt His presence. I would never be the same. How could I be? Let’s begin, then.

    For months, I don’t know how to even begin to describe the unraveling of my world. Too much, if not all of it was wound into one person. That person meant, and will always mean, more to me than any human being I’ve ever known. But our love had different conditions. And it turns out I was unloveable and cancellable, after all. And after all, anyone except the most present in Christ would say I deserve it. But no matter how severe I messed up, my love was very true. And my heart was in that person. I only was struggling to love myself. So when it all unwinds it creates a great deal of chaotic momentum and confusion; one looks to God and hears nothing. I thought I could provoke God from His sleep with my anger, my sadness, my genuine devotion. Bargaining. Nothing. Screaming. Crying. I tried it all. But I couldn’t hear or see him through the smoke and ashes I was flinging about. I silenced Him. But He was there.

    Jesus came to me- in the beautiful green mountains like rising emeralds. We were alone and a fire burned near by, well kept, and flames dancing about. He had removed my heart from my chest. It was large, as big as a volleyball, and he was wrapping in a white cloth. He placed it back into my chest and reached his hands out, palms up, scars in his palms. I looked down and blood was running from my chest and down my arms and hands. I reached out and put my hands in his and he began to bleed. His blood, dark rich red, flowed down his arms and covered my own. I asked questions, even as this vision disappeared and was replaced by a soft nothing. He showed me her pain and showed me how He sees her. I was broken, but I felt a presence. I asked if I could see her one more time and He said, yes, soon. The next morning, I awoke early to join a friend for breakfast from my old men’s group. A group that I held dear but have not returned to due to my own shame and embarrassment. I passed through a red light and there she was turning into the median. I saw her long enough to see she was safe, content, alive, well…All the things I used to be a part of. All the things I want for her.

    I know I’ll never see her again. But God delivered on His promise. He spoke to me and it happened. And he talks to me still. Constantly, reshaping and remaking and finishing my real identity. The identity he gave me at birth that I allowed to be hidden. The part of me that make people feel safe and loved. The part of me that is connected to the kingdom. And He tells me what he calls me as I confess to him the horrible things I call myself. How I have longed to see God like this-even in my darkest hours with pain that I could have never fathomed. How I have longed feel His presence. And how I look forward to sharing more of it with you.

  • Asking What, Not Why

    Asking What, Not Why

    “We are not necessarily doubting that God will do the best for us; we are wondering how painful the best will turn out to be.”
    ― C.S. Lewis

    The ashes of my terminal end seemed to fall about me for months. My panic persisted in abundance as I frantically thrashed about emotionally, desperate not to feel this remarkable pain of loss. Begging and bargaining out loud to nobody, waiting, screaming in an empty house, breaking into sudden fits of sobbing. I watched as she erased me from her life with out a word spoken to me. I thought of what helped in the past to cope with pain. Drugs? Never again, they only made my life worse the first time. Alcohol? I was too fearful I would take my own life if inhibited. Exercise? I couldn’t move. Frozen on the couch in a constant state of terror. Memories everywhere. Thoughts of her moving on to break her own promises too soon. I searched through a dating site and panicked in 36 hours, shutting it down- I couldn’t even imagine touching another person. I googled vacations and places to travel. Why travel with no person to make memories with, especially without the person you traveled with so much before the fall? Okay, all else failed perhaps a new hobby? Fear had become my new hobby. No light could shine onto any new possibility. To be honest, very little light still shines through the cracks of this prison wall. I found that all I could do is ask, why? Why God? WHY?

    Driven by fear and pain, “why” is the first question on the lips of every suffering child. It necessitates a satisfactory answer. It mandates a response that is fulfilling. I only want to hear one thing- I’ll fix this. My entire being is so consumed by the flames of fear that any response to my cosmic questioning, except all that I lost will be reinstated, will not suffice. “Why did this happen”, falls from my mouth and lungs so many times that it eventually evolves unnoticed to “why aren’t you answering me”? My mind is so chaotic all I can hear is the constant drone of unwanted memories and the sound of my heart breaking into more pieces. My body and mind buzzing with a million thoughts, regrets, alone beneath a blanket of shame. I ask for forgiveness but cannot even come close to forgiving myself. Hanging myself on that cross without the respect of a burial and certain of no resurrection. I believe God exists. I believe he can put me back together, speak miracles into existence, calm my storm. But I only want one thing from him. So, what I perceive is silence.

    When I found him in the garden, he was praying quietly, but he was speaking to me still: calling to me. Not giving me an answer. Not taking away my pain. Just inviting me to sit and share in his own experience of grief, even to the point of death. I had to wander in on him, there in that garden, several times. It took multiple invitations. Eventually, I sat there long enough to hear him speak again. “Now come with me to the cross”. Fear again took over because the cross demands my confessions. But this is what I asked him for: to hear him speak. Even then he did not answer my why. He wouldn’t because I already knew. I know why I am here. Instead I finally asked him what- what should I do? What do you want? What can I learn? What am I? What do YOU WANT ME TO UNDERSTAND? And then, the slightest movement. The next vision. The next image. Coming in more clearly every time. Speaking to me. First he demanded honesty. He demanded me to speak the truth in my confession. Then he walked toward the cross and I hoped to follow. That was my first real experience knowing for certain that I heard the voice of God. No voice at all- but I heard it still. What now? Well, I don’t know. But I do know, at least, He is real. And He speaks to me.

    “Why” still wanders into my heart every few minutes, it seems. It still sucks the air out of the room and pierces my chest with sudden pain. I try to redirect my question to “what”. Knowing that “why” will trap me and “what” will eventually free me. Hoping. Wanting. Wishing. What do you want me to understand, Lord?